How safe are you with the opposite sex in your room?

By Esther Oluka BAMC II, :: 06-10-2010

Students in one of the hostel rooms in Mukono. Hosting someone of the opposite gender in your room can be dangerous. 

The greatest desire the majority of University students have is becoming non-residents, ofcourse the majority pertaining this liberty of renting their own rooms in their second year.


 Most times, after these rooms have been fully furnished with all sorts of luxurious accessories ranging from electronic equipment, carpets, food,  they are then ready to receive all sorts of visitors.
 However, the sad fact is that, majority of these desiring non-residents will do anything to make their rooms “sophisticated” so as to attain a desired social class especially to show-off to friends.
 Derrick Ahabwe, a third year students says he regrets convincing his father to let him become a non-resident while he was still in year one.
 “I wanted to prove how unique I was from the rest of my classmates” recalls Ahabwe.
 “Unfortunately when I finally got my room, hell broke loose. I remember one Saturday evening when I invited a female friend to visit me at my place and she ended up seducing me, which incident was really unbelievable especially because I least expected that especially from her,” he recounts while nodding his head in disbelief.
  He adds, though he continues being a non-resident, he is always very cautious especially when his female friends come around to  visit him.
  Incidences such as these have happened to a number of students staying off- campus but most of them have kept them as secrets for personal reasons.
Normally, such students carry the common perspective that they would be washing their dirty linen in public should any one find out, so their problems have ended up suffocating them and yet they would have sought solutions from the right people at their infancy.
 Florence Mboingaba, the proprietor of Shalom students’ hostel says, there are various happenings that always take place behind closed doors but many of the students prefer not to discuss any of their private life with anyone besides their friends who at times may mislead them by giving them wrong advice.
This is worsened especially at a time when one is really desperate for help.
 “With the kind of freedom these students are obliged to as non-residents; I imposed some rules for their own benefit. For example; I expect visitors to leave by 10pm and with more emphasis on the rule that there are no sleep overs,” says Mboingaba.
  Obviously, it is also common knowledge that once one starts sleeping outside the university halls, they are entitled to visits by people from all walks of life though the majorities have always scrapped off the possibility of something happening.
This is mainly because the visits are mainly from persons they trust ranging from friends, class mates, and relatives, so they believe these are unlikely to be the sources of harm.
Well, some of the visits have turned out to be the worst one could possibly imagine.

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